One of the saddest things about the natural world is that living creatures only have a finite time here on earth. Childhood often brings with it one of the first experiences of this harsh reality, usually through the loss of a beloved pet. I certainly lost a few animals while I was growing up and that feeling of loss is something most humans find hard to bear. You swiftly move on but it is an important reminder that our time on earth is limited and life is precious.
Nature's Cycle by Virginia Lee
I have never shied away from discussing life and death with the children, but it is certainly a milestone when they suddenly realise the finality of it all. At that point the first little slice of childhood innocence evaporates, but it is ok and not to be mourned; this is how it is meant to be. Cycles are an essential part of nature - whether we are referring to the water table, the rising and setting of the sun or recycling of elements when a creature shuffles off its mortal coil.
My best friend has to put his beloved Neopolitan Mastiff to sleep tomorrow. He is the same age as me, but deep inside we are still the same children losing pets twenty five years ago. I remember well when my young family lost one of our pet dogs Kaia (see pic below) to a heart attack on Christmas Day back in 2006. She was only 3.5 years old and my first son too young to grasp the significance of what happened - though he still marvels at pictures of her and asks for another dog the same. It didn't really hit me until I returned from my mum's house (where we went for Christmas dinner and tried to put a brave face on). At home, later that night, the reality of not having her with us hit home. It is that sense of loss that all humans (possibly with the exception of sociopaths!) have evolved to feel. I would like to think it serves some purpose.

It was only a few months back that my eldest son visited uncle Jim's for a tour of his reticulated python collection. His two huge mastiffs were patrolling the premises as usual but, having been introduced as guests, we were then treated with kindness and my son was covered in slobber from enthusiastic attention. Jim's young son, when he is older, will marvel at pics of Titan in the same way my son is in awe of Kaia. Too young to remember, but knowing the huge canine was there for his family once.
The natural world and the universe are part of a vast cycle. Titan will soon be out of pain and onto the next stage of his journey. I love this poem, which captures the wonder of that cycle and the poignancy of loss. It reminds us that nothing ever truly dies and that nature is wondrous and beautiful:
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.